Episode 091: The Matrix & Big Feelings
Don’t get angry. How do you control your anger? Al Bernstein recommends pretending you are talking to a child. You wouldn’t try to rationalize with a screaming child, and you wouldn’t get angry with them for yelling. You’d just dismiss the hysterics and deal with the underlying problem.
Eric Barker • Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong
Thanks for your response roon. You make a lot of good, well put points. It's extremely difficult to discuss "high meta" concepts like spirituality, duty and memetics even in the best of circumstances, so I appreciate that we can have this conversation even through the psychic quagmire that is twitter replies.
I will be... See more
Connor Leahyx.comStart with what’s going on for you. Are you angry? Is that because you’re afraid? Or insecure? Maybe you’re just tired and feeling worn down. Or maybe your child’s behavior is reminding you of things in your life that were traumatizing, such as an accident. Take a moment to open up to what you’re feeling with curiosity and without harsh judgment.
... See moreSteven Hayes • A Liberated Mind: The essential guide to ACT
Your thoughts create your feelings. If you believe that children shouldn’t raise their voices to the parent, every time this happens, you’ll feel like danger signs are flashing – and thus react/fight back. So instead, think: “My child is getting defiant. I notice I’m angry. Let me take a deep breath. I can choose what to do. There’s no emergency.... See more
Farnam Street • Dr. Laura Markham: Peaceful Parenting [The Knowledge Project Ep. #52]
Hey hi hello. It's me, Ann, the yellow sweater-wearer. I gave this talk at The Love Symposium. It was called Understanding Interpersonal Conflict. Here's generally how it went:
-A conflict is a disagreement. Not all disagreements escalate into fights.
-Fights are caused by threat (real or... See more
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