Don't Be So Attached to Attachment Theory

Insecure attachment styles are actually strategies for managing the uncomfortable emotions aroused by Mother’s inconsistency, according to author Diana Fosha. “Their coping style— watching Mother like a hawk and clinging to her to reassure themselves she won’t disappear again—is their…

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Romantic choices can be troublingly mechanical and impulsive for those who haven’t studied themselves. Here’s the impulse that’s going to kick off our discussion: people tend to find partners who soothe their deepest insecurities.

for many people, their fears and attachments are very often just symptoms of deeper issues for which they do not have any better way to cope.

Being alone, especially during times of distress, is upsetting for those with anxious attachment, and they don’t do well when their attachment figures go away. In later relationships, they are likely to feel insecure when their romantic partner goes away, and more likely to be…

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