Dating After Divorce Wasn't What They Said It'd Be — Gloria

truly, by the time a marriage is over and the leaving is done, a person is more than ready for something new. But the paperwork. As if the prospect of combing through New Yorkers looking for love weren’t its own existential nightmare.

The story we are told of women is not this one. The story of women is the story of love, of foundering into another. A slight deviation: longing to founder and being unable to. Being left alone in the foundering, and taking things into one’s own hands: rat poison, the wheels of a Russian train. Even the smoother and gentler story is still just a mo

The stories he heard from divorced women were all the same—not the details, but the themes: This thing I thought was just a whim was actually an important part of my spouse’s identity, and still I’m surprised. This thing they had always been doing they kept doing and still I’m surprised. Here is how innocent I was and here is how cruel my spouse wa

Or maybe now there was something about his current situation, being newly divorced and a little wounded, that had somehow made him that way.

His divorce had somehow given him a soul.