Dangerous Dating Protocols Web
The American political theorist Robert Goodin wrote a whole treatise on this topic, On Settling, in which he demonstrates, to start with, that we’re inconsistent when it comes to what we define as ‘settling’. Everyone seems to agree that if you embark on a relationship when you secretly suspect you could find someone better, you’re guilty of settli
... See moreOliver Burkeman • Four Thousand Weeks
Unfortunately, the patterns of our techno-social order tend toward the fracturing of community and the isolation of the person. We are offered an array of tools that promise to assuage the resulting economic and psychic precarity, but, more often than not, their real aim implicit in their design is to perpetuate and accelerate social fragmentation ... See more
theconvivialsociety.substack.com • The Answer Is Not More Information
2. Focus on having a good time. The “conversion” shouldn’t be a match, it should be having a fun night out.
David Titarenco • RFC: Let’s Disrupt Dating Apps
Looking for love sounds more like chasing the high of an extreme sport, trust falling with someone you don’t really know like that. It demands exacting reciprocity, extreme vulnerability. It brings out people’s basest and most primal instincts and a frightening desire to merge into someone else. When the girlies on TikTok talk about dating, they ra... See more
In addition to being modeled after addictive casino games, online dating and apps are optimized for user engagement (i.e. membership and advertising revenue) instead of user desired outcome (i.e. finding your future husband).