Crossing the Cringe Minefield
“I’m studying dark and holistic psychology, and I wish more artists, actors, and creators talked about this:
The fear of being seen isn’t just self-doubt or imposter syndrome.
I call it The Spotlight Trauma - when your nervous system perceives success as exposure, and exposure as danger.Your brain doesn’t just fear failure.
It fears being fully seen
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Not giving a fuck if you look cringe is a superpower for the great online game. Like Peter Parker getting bit by a spider, I had my superhero moment with the druggie days. And I’m glad it happened. But you don’t need to go down that path to realize this: internet embarrassment isn’t that bad. Stop living in fear of being called cringe. The fear is ... See more
Cringe is The New Cool
Shameful failures point us inward, and the work to be done as a result of those failures is work on ourselves: we should become better people; we should live up to our values or our cultures’ values.15 Awkward moments point to a different remedy: we should look outward, at the kind of social scripts available to us, and ask how these are written an
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