Call me a homebody.

The world I want to live in is one where everyone knows and embodies their inherent belonging. It’s a world where none of us feel the impulse to do alone what requires community. It’s a world where sharing ourselves is an invitation to deeper knowing. It’s a world where there is space for everyone to unapologetically shine, knowing there is truly r... See more

But these activities are all separate from the feelings needed to fully and sustainably participate: the courage, optimism, trust, love, intimacy, curiosity. The resilience to push through the inevitable feelings of fear, overwhelm, frustration, and hurt. The stamina to go through cycles of all of these feelings and more, again and again, and conti... See more

I would love to live like a river flows, carried by the surprise of its own unfolding.”

I suppose what I’m trying to offer here, both to myself and to you, is this:

Permission to trust what is happening when you can’t seem to find the words.

Permission to take off your meaning-making hat and simply soften into the moment.

Permission to let what you lo... See more

Following are ten foolproof ways to nurture your community that have served me.

1. be present and listen


2. take initiative and be accountable


3. eat together: communal dinner with questions prepped ahead of time


4. give gifts 


5. inspire fun, play, and adventure


6. design spaces for belonging: “Designing intentional spaces is at the root of belonging. It’s the phy

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Everything is more precious, everything is more fragile. I’ll invest in the room I’m in. I’ll paint the acrylic frames above my bed and try to make it a home I want to return to. I’ll devote myself to hyper-local communities even if I’m unsure where I’ll be in a year. I’ll invest in the love between us, even when there’s no guarantee of permanence.... See more

What would group living, based on that definition, look like as a guiding principle in our lives—however we structure our homes? I think the first step toward that is building routines with others—like the ritual of a shared meal, as you mention—things you can do inside of a home and outside of one. I wanted to encourage readers to look for ways to... See more