And what’s worse is that this logic isn’t seen as callous, it’s seen as savvy. Strategic. Emotionally intelligent, even. We are applauded for cutting ties quickly, for “protecting our peace”, for “honouring our intuition”. But often, what we actually honour is a profound fear of emotional labour. Of repair. Of the slow, clumsy choreography of two p... See more

For anyone who has ever loved someone and then stopped loving them, or for anyone who has stopped being loved by someone, it’s a reminder that the immediate exit can be the hardest part. Admitting the end is one thing, but making the decision to walk into it is another, particularly when an option to remain tethered can mean cheaper rent, or a hit

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