That’s why, over thousands of years, philosophers and spiritual leaders have advocated for a healthy form of letting go. Buddhism teaches that suffering arises from attachment to desires, including the desire for control over outcomes. Taoism talks about wu wei, which can be translated as “effortless action.” This doesn’t mean inaction but rather a

We have no control but we think we should have. Letting go of the illusion of control will not make you more vulnerable, it will make you more relaxed, peaceful, open, receptive, joyful, calm. Children have no control and don’t think they should have.

In Stoicism, the focus is on controlling your own thoughts and actions—not the thoughts or actions of others.