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attending to the other
Attunement is mirrored attentiveness from one person to another. Attentiveness means noticing and hearing words, feelings, and experience. In a moment of authentic attention, we feel that we are deeply and truly understood in what we say or do and in who we are, with nothing left out. Likewise, we can attune to others’ feelings, needs, bodily react
... See moreDavid Richo • How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
Understanding comes only when we let go of our self and allow the other to grab our full attention. In order for the reality of the other’s self to fully invest us, we must first divest ourselves of our own selves.
Robert Zaretsky • Simone Weil’s Radical Conception of Attention
becomes clear that reciprocal attention is what ensures our survival as well.
Jenny Odell • How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy
Attending to people and having them attend to us is our normal state of being. Social attention is like sunlight for a plant: we needed to live. It warms and nourishes us. We stretch toward its presence; we shrivel in its absence.
The Sirens Call
This project of seeking out a truth found elsewhere is, at its best, intersubjective in the Lacanian sense—a tending toward an other that placesthe self at risk