They always lose when they judge in this way, because it precludes any true connection or mutual support. And if they resent someone who is close to them, they do not feel good about themselves.

forget their personal desires.

For example, if they are anxious about making a phone call, they can ask themselves: “Regardless of the outcome, will making this call give me a sense of self-respect?” If the answer is yes, they will “win” by making the call. If the answer is no, they should re-think their position.

Instead of playing the nurturing mother role in this lifetime, they need to put more emphasis on the “father” role—taking responsibility to help others achieve constructive goals.

they are so accustomed to sacrificing their real selves to perform a “role” and earn approval that they all too easily behave in ways they feel are expected—contrary to their own hearts.

They cut themselves off from many happy interactions because they are so quick to judge superficial appearances. The only way out of this self-destructive pattern is for Aquarius North Nodes to consciously evoke their inherent generosity.

Virgo North Node people sometimes respond to others in extremes, being overly focused or totally unfocused; too trusting or too suspicious; a complete doormat or totally aloof and invulnerable.

Those patterns of thinking feed their egos and hurt their hearts.

The trap that Aquarius North Node people fall into is an unending search for risk taking—especially in romance (“If I can just have a happy love life, then I will feel complete and can begin to do my part to help the planet”). However, if they don’t balance this romantic energy with a daily commitment to some type of humanitarian cause, it becomes