Are we responsible for other people's emotions?
When you find yourself responding to someone else’s behavior, it can be easy to dwell on what that person has done and how terrible it is and what exactly they should do to fix it. Instead, try looking at your own feelings as a message about your internal state of being, and then decide how you want to deal with whatever’s going on. Do you want to
... See moreJanet W. Hardy • The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
what’s meant to fall apart, should fall apart. people pleasing keeps dead things alive…
it’s impossible to manage someone elses emotional state. that’s actually quite controlling. a subtle form of emotional colinization.
— back from the borderline, the death of the people-pleaser: how self-abandonment becomes a survival strategy
How many people am I angry at? How many people do I harbor ungenerous feelings toward, simply because I am privy to their suffering and frightened by it, and so need to keep it at bay with anger and criticism?