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Some people don't like themselves. They hide this from themselves by thinking they don’t like other people. They often bristle like a porcupine any time someone gets too close. That, or the opposite: they need to be insulated by other people's skin at all times. These are contrasting expressions of the same fundamental fracture. A person cannot sta... See more

AVOIDANCE. Avoidance is usually about fear. Emotions and relationships have hurt me, so I will minimize emotions and relationships. People who are avoidant feel most comfortable when the conversation stays superficial. They often overintellectualize life. They retreat to work. They try to be self-sufficient and pretend they don’t have needs. Often,

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North American researcher Tiffany Field, from the Touch Research Institute and Miller School of Medicine in Miami, has been arguing for years that most of us are ‘touch hungry’, and that this may be leading to a range of negative outcomes for our health and well-being. The skin, by far the largest organ we sense with, accounts for something like 16

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