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AVOIDANCE. Avoidance is usually about fear. Emotions and relationships have hurt me, so I will minimize emotions and relationships. People who are avoidant feel most comfortable when the conversation stays superficial. They often overintellectualize life. They retreat to work. They try to be self-sufficient and pretend they don’t have needs. Often,
... See moreDavid Brooks • How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen
Many traumatized individuals are too hypervigilant to enjoy the ordinary pleasures that life has to offer, while others are too numb to absorb new experiences—or to be alert to signs of real danger.
Bessel van der Kolk • The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma
suppressing the experience and expression of emotion, cutting off interoceptive awareness, and in general denying and dissociating from one’s embodied self-awareness. Some methods of being out of touch with embodied self-awareness, however, seem like just the opposite.
Alan Fogel • Body Sense: The Science and Practice of Embodied Self-Awareness (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
However, if you experienced a chronic early threat, you may struggle to fully develop your sense of these energetic boundaries. As a result, you may become extremely sensitive to your surroundings. Sometimes, you can appear to be psychic and are able to energetically attune to others and the environment. Other times, you can feel swamped or invaded
... See moreImi Lo • Emotional Sensitivity and Intensity: How to manage intense emotions as a highly sensitive person - learn more about yourself with this life-changing self help book (Teach Yourself)
