against narrative

So much of life, and loss, exists in this space between binaries: a divorce that doesn’t end a relationship; a move that brings too much baggage to the new destination; a dying relative who’s no longer alive in the way we remember him, even as he breathes the same air we do for years. As painful as the extreme might be in these situations—severing

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“I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter." I don't want it to be something that just passes.

“My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. A

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Without the story, do you really have any way of knowing what pain is? And we can go even further: without the story, do you really have any way of knowing what sensations actually are? Without the story, life is a total mystery, isn’t it? Yes, the mystery is there even within the experience of pain. Pain does not destroy or block mystery; it is sa

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