against narrative

I’m always thinking about that Raúl Zurita quote that people put on Tumblr: Toda declaración de amor es urgente porque vamos a morir [every declaration of love is urgent because we’re going to die]. In real life, obviously, you cannot declare love to just anyone. You have to go with the flow, wait on other people’s time, accept their ambivalence, t... See more

The story we are told of women is not this one. The story of women is the story of love, of foundering into another. A slight deviation: longing to founder and being unable to. Being left alone in the foundering, and taking things into one’s own hands: rat poison, the wheels of a Russian train. Even the smoother and gentler story is still just a mo

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There’s one model of the world that goes something like: platonically and romantically we fall in love with people, and then we fall out of love with them. Romantic relationships end. Friendships drift apart. It’s very sad for some period of time, but everyone involved recovers and moves on.

There’s another model of the world that goes something li... See more