do we ever get over things?
The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me, relinqu... See more
friends shape your identity
On the other hand, no person we have loved is ever fully gone. When they die or vanish, they are physically no longer present, but their personhood permeates our synapses with memories and habits of mind, saturates an all-pervading atmosphere of feeling we don’t just carry with us all the time but live and breathe inside. Or the opposite happens, w... See more
Maria Popova • Your Brain on Grief, Your Heart on Healing
Yufa and added
“life is long and there lots of twists and turns. I am trying to become someone who holds on when I can but lets go when I need to. Control and release, over and over.
When we met 10 years ago we sat and talked for about six hours and I felt so utterly comfortable. Like I could tell you the most deranged thing about me, the worst thing I’d ever done
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The thing I’ve learned over time is that friendships are not fungible—no two people are the same, obviously, but also you can’t replicate the experience of someone knowing you through a particular era of your life. You can never go back to that period of your life; you can never replace the people who witnessed you and supported you. To me, relinqu
... See moreUnderstood this way, then, the ongoing relationship with the gone is a lavishment to other loves, for it has made us exactly who we are — the person doing the loving, the person being loved, the mapmaker of present and possible worlds. O’Connor offers neural affirmation for this poetic aspiration:
Maria Popova • Your Brain on Grief, Your Heart on Healing
Yufa added
i’ve found it incredibly difficult to come to terms with the fact that people can just come and go out of our lives and all we are left with is grief and loss. most of the people we meet in life are just passing moments. you’ll know them for a brief period before they are a stranger again and there’s nothing you can do about this. you don’t want to
... See moreRishita Chaudhary added