A More Expansive Masculinity

To offer men a different way of being, we must first replace the dominator model with a partnership model that sees interbeing and interdependency as the organic relationship of all living beings. In the partnership model selfhood, whether one is female or male, is always at the core of one’s identity. Patriarchal masculinity teaches males to be pa

On that note, let's stop asking boys, "What do you want to do?" Let's start asking them, "Who do you want to be?"

Boys will instinctively tether themselves to their performance as students and athletes. They will feel the pull as adults to anchor their identity to vocation. Asking boys, "What do you want to do?" or men,

Right now, too many young men are being fed the junk food variety of masculinity. The magic bullet, use steroids, dominate others, get rich quick on Crypto version. We’re not doing a good enough job of championing a more sustainable and healthier version, one that ultimately leads to more success than the ​bastardized concept​ of an alpha-male.

There are new strategies emerging, or being remembered—many would describe this as a shift from a masculine to feminine (or patriarchal to feminist) leadership. I see that, and I think it is also about something beyond all of our binaries—evolving in relationship with our hierarchical tendency.