3-2-1: On Hate as a Defense Mechanism, Reciprocity, and Consistency | James Clear

Basketball coach John Wooden , winner of 10 championships, on giving:

“There is a wonderful, almost mystical, law of nature that says three of the things we want most—happiness, freedom, and peace of mind—are always attained when we give them to others. Give it away to get it back.”

Writer James Baldwin on hate as a defense mechanism:

“I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.”

“People generally have more control over their actions than their feelings.

But we can influence our feelings by taking action.

Take one small step. Move the body first and the mind will follow.”

“An approach that has worked well for me: Friendly, but persistent.”