There’s a pervasive idea, at least among my peers, that [your 30s] should bring about a sense of calm and self-acceptance. We may have dispensed with the precepts surrounding marriage and kids, but there remains a non-specific expectation of “settling in.” Into yourself, into what you want. I took great comfort in this idea when I was in my 20s. I... See more

Finding this magic isn’t straightforward. It’s a process of trial and error. It involves tinkering with your thoughts, challenging your beliefs, and stepping out of your comfort zones. And just as in scientific experiments, where a different input or environment can affect the outcome, the formula you once discovered may change as your

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It would be ridiculous, anyway, to have figured so much out at 35. What are you going to do for the next 50 years? Settle deeper and deeper until you’re dead in the ground? It sounds much more interesting to keep being surprised by who you are and what you want.

I’m not arguing that experience doesn’t bring about wisdom, only that wisdom is an... See more