I know that often I don’t know what to say. “That sounds really hard” is usually a solid option.

I know Brazil’s got it all. Do yourself a solid and get into Brazilian music: Bossa Nova for cocktails/dinner, samba for waking up, forró for fun.

if you’re stuck in a place or situation you hate, see what you can do there for others. I learned this through experience: When I hated working at a law firm, I’d think of ways to brighten my co-workers’ days.

I know that kids love absurd questions. If you’re trying to connect with a kid, ask them an adult question like “What kind of car do you drive” or “What do you do for work?” They will crack up and the more you continue the bit, the more they will loosen up with you.

I have been at many an event without a plus-one and intimately know the pain of entering a ballroom full of new faces. If you’re at an event where you don’t know anyone, stand in the longest line you can find: for the bar, buffet, bathroom. Strike up a conversation and you’ll be set for the evening!

I know we’re all more forgetful than we think we are. Write stuff down: The movies you saw, the books you read, the things that upset you so you know what never to do to others, the things that made you feel loved so you know what to do to others, the funny things your toddler niece says, the wines you like, the restaurants you visited this year.... See more

I know to embrace magazines: Read them at the nail salon, put them out for overnight guests, buy a few before a long flight. Magazines are candy bars for the brain: indulgent and satisfying.

I know anticipation can soften despair. Always have something on the calendar that you’re looking forward to.

I know that curiosity is a cure-all for social anxiety. If you’re nervous on a date, ask more questions than you answer.