Brandy Cerne

1. Relationships do not scale. They have to be built one at a time, through patience and forbearance. But norms do scale. When people in a community cultivate caring relationships, and do so repeatedly in a way that gets communicated to others, then norms are established. Trustworthy action is admired; empathy is celebrated. Cruelty is punished and

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The best long term fuel source is some repeated act that energizes you in a way that then lets you become a generative person, who uses the energy to make things for others. A great question is "what is your renewable fuel source?"

Relationalism asserts that human beings are both fundamentally broken but also splendidly endowed. We have egoistic self-interested desires, and we need those desires in order to accomplish some of the necessary tasks of life: to build an identity, to make a mark on the world, to break away from parents, to compete, create and to shine. Our savage

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In the university program where I was supposed to be emancipating myself from the kitchen, preparing myself to go back to New York having at least answered the question of my own potential, the novelty and thrill had thoroughly worn off. I could not find the fun or the urgency in the eventless and physically idle academic life. It was so lethargic

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Some Weaving is in the family—to practice the unconditional love that is proper family love. This sometimes requires daily acts of putting your convenience before mine, setting aside time for family dinner, making the most of any chance to have a celebration, overwhelming the bad things with good things and of course the regular habits of

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Openness. You are not hiring a finished product, and therefore want to ensure the person is open to improvement and new ideas.

1. What to look for:
   
   
   1. Coachability: This trait has two aspects: responding well to feedback, and being self-aware enough to assess their own performance.
   
   
   2. Disagree and commit: Can they get out of their own ego and move

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If you know that people are going to come in, looking to buy a car for their teenager, why wouldn’t you be prepared with an act of hospitality that will strengthen their connection to your brand? How would you feel about a car salesperson who pulled you aside and said, “Look, I know what it’s like to have a newly licensed teenager on the road, so I... See more

Starting with language/market fit brings three other big advantages:

1. Speed - Product build-measure-learn cycles, even just prototyping, can take weeks. But you can iterate language 5X in a single day.

2. Traction - A pre-launch lead-capture site (that markets the product to validate demand) with 25% conversion is a strong signal to potential... See more