Brandy Cerne

Conformism is the force that translates our own desires through others' desires. We learn to play a role. We become so good at playing the role that we become 'inaccessible' to ourselves; our own desires and truth are 'impenetrable.'

What does it mean to be a parent ? An entrepreneur ? An early adopter of the latest technology? Our roles are bound... See more

To find a topic that is right for you:

1. Follow your energy . What topics give you energy to think about, write about, and talk about? What saps you of energy? Spend more on the former and less on the latter. This one trick will tell you a lot.


2. Make sure it’s based on your real-life experience. You need to know what you’re talking about. People can

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People are only attracted to information that helps them survive and thrive, and People, for the most part, only listen to ideas that are communicated simply.

Relationalism is a middle way between hyper-individualism and collectivism. The former detaches the person from all deep connection. The latter obliterates the person within the group, and sees groups as faceless herds. The relationalist sees each person as a node in a thick and enchanted web of warm commitments. She seeks to build a neighborhood,

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One very good way to tell that your centre of gravity is out of whack is when it feels like you spend a lot of time inside the minds of far-off strangers.

Gifts, to me, are deeply meaningful, which is why I get so mad when a business gives me a cheap tote with a branded USB drive. Try harder! Do better! Gifts are a way to tell people you saw, heard, and recognized them—that you cared enough to listen, and to do something with what you heard. A gift transforms an interaction, taking it from... See more

Few things give me more of an instant seratonin boost than discovering a new metaphor, and Headlands Center for the Arts recently served up a lovely one. The multidisciplinary arts center just north of the Golden Gate Bridge (where, on another tangential note, I had my 8th grade graduation party) shared that 2023 Artist in Residence Daniela Rivera... See more

Have a contrarian point of view. Traits of a top-tier contrarian view:

• People can disagree with it, like the thesis of a persuasive essay. It’s debatable.


• Something you truly believe and can advocate for. Before future investors, customers, and team members do, you have to have personal conviction in it. And you have to believe people will be better

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