Aleynah

That person who was once your soulmate, may not be your person forever. That doesn’t make your relationship any less special, because ‘the one’ is made. We build it together.

I used to confuse “rational rumination” with intuition. I used to think a lot— a lot —about other people and their motivations, the many problems of the world, and myself and what kind of person I want to be. I thought I was being productive by thinking through these things with the clinical seriousness of a chemist. The reality is that I was worki... See more

You will not find your true self through a series rational choices and consumptive experiences. Some things are not chosen, they simply are.

Our breakup was so protracted, in part, because our story was so, so good, and I wanted so badly for the story of our relationship to be the story of my life — doing the dishes in the nighttime, his hands over my eyes when we watched horror movies, the love songs I wrote him on our anniversary. A math prodigy and a writer. Our children would have m... See more

Eliminate the bad. In other words, don’t suck. The most basic thing you need to do at any job is simply be competent. This isn’t very hard to achieve, because it’s based on not under-achieving. To get where you’re going, you need to start the car in park, not in reverse. Your boss mostly wants to know that when they tell you to do something, you do... See more

And our phones don’t just move us out of our bodies, but they have become something of a second brain, a second body. You don’t have to remember something if you can record it, photograph it, or type it into your notes app. You don’t have to look good in person if you look good on Instagram. Our phones not only hollow out our true selves, but are s... See more