Actual advice

How to Win Friends & Influence People. Essentially, the book can be summed up into five simple steps:

1. Pay someone a genuine compliment. It has to be sincere. It can’t be a fake compliment. 

2. Ask them a question about their favorite subject, which is typically something about themselves. And then ju

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Have a clear point, and make it succinctly. That is, if you have one. You probably don’t know anything about what you’re doing when you’re first starting out, and fake confidence is glaringly obvious to those who have experience. Some people should have imposter syndrome. Please know that a lot of your colleagues are just humoring you while you lea... See more

Eliminate the bad. In other words, don’t suck. The most basic thing you need to do at any job is simply be competent. This isn’t very hard to achieve, because it’s based on not under-achieving. To get where you’re going, you need to start the car in park, not in reverse. Your boss mostly wants to know that when they tell you to do something, you do... See more

Media consumption simply does not cut it. If you want to separate yourself intellectually from your peers, develop serious interests and passions, feel calmer and more collected, have deeper, more interesting conversations, and rarely feel bored— you have to read. ( Books, by the way . Not Instagram captions, not lists, not product recommendations ... See more