Agalia Tan

“The professional has learned, however, that too much love can be a bad thing. Too much love can make him choke. The seeming detachment of the professional, the cold-blooded character to his demeanor, is a compensating device to keep him from loving the game so much that he freezes in action.”

MOST people have a Partus Operandi of one of the following: Big Idea Discourse, Incoherent Riffing, Work, or Listening (two ears one mouth type beat). I’m usually 2 and 3. With the occasional foray into 1 and 4. (Obviously, this axis is thrown out when you’re flirting or trying to flirt...good pussy/dick have you laid up talking about etc. etc.)

One solution I’ve been practicing: I ask for permission to "say it imperfectly".

I’ll say something like, “hey, I want to talk about this, but I don’t know exactly how to say it. Is it okay if I say it imperfectly?”

There’s an irony here: Algorithms were once believed to untether us from the masses and offer paths for personalization. But “For You” is not about pushing the limits of our artistic palates, but a device to serve us what the platform wants us to be satisfied with, herding us into perfectly predictable siloes that can be targeted with more “precise... See more

in choosing who you spend time with you choose who you are.