Agalia Tan

for certain people

I firmly believe that we we seek is seeking us and the fastest way to attract what’s meant for us all is to express yourself so honestly that everything misaligned falls away on its own. The more clearly someone speaks clearly from their centre, the more easily the right people, places, and possibilities can recognise their signal.

What is exciting? What repels? What stands out?

If someone likes you best when you are vague, it means they fell in love with what they painted over you, not the actual contours of your selfhood. So when you begin to articulate your values, preferences, boundaries, they may pull away, because they never met you in the first place. The work of becoming specific, then, is also an act of... See more

Because someone once said: we are not defined by the love we receive - we are the love we give. The act of loving, even without outcome, still expands the soul and reveals what we’re capable of carrying.

Ideally, the next fall is the last one and it lands somewhere soft.

I believe deeply in something like soulmates - a real, mutual, sustaining love. That’s the dream, of course. But the search is hard, as anything worthwhile tends to be, and we have to keep trying.

I think heartbreak deserves less caution than most of us assume. Because love, even when it doesn’t last, is still worth the price of entry. It’s proof... See more

Loving sharpens the self and taste

People often talk about crushes as aspirational mirrors. Often, they reflect the qualities we long to cultivate in ourselves - confidence, charisma, creativity, spiritual clarity. When we fall for someone, we’re drawn to the version of ourselves that wakes up in their light as much as we are drawn to them as... See more