Adam Callahan
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Adam Callahan
Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is “solving.” If you’re avoiding your problems or feel like you don’t have any problems, then you’re going to make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can’t solve, you will likewise make yourself miserable. The secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in
... See moreInstead, couples may find it more productive to focus on the future. In situations where relationships are the priority, research shows that constructive co-reflection—working toward a shared understanding and meaning—is more effective than brooding over one’s own perspective (Wenzel et al., 2023). Couples are also more likely to reach forgiveness ... See more
Is Your Partner Keeping Score in Your Relationship?
So it’s a good bet that when you step away from your devices, you’ll be spending more time, at least in the near term, with the emotions they were helping you avoid. Fortunately, in most cases, just knowing to expect this will enable you to resist the temptation to scurry back to the screens. (And incidentally, if you doubt that you use technology ... See more
The Imperfectionist: Three ideas for turbulent times
If we have problems that are unsolvable, our unconscious figures that we’re either uniquely special or uniquely defective in some way. That we’re somehow unlike everyone else and that the rules must be different for us. Put simply: we become entitled.
Often, it’s this realization—that you and your problems are actually not privileged in their severi
... See moreIn a rare 1988 interview, mythologist Joseph Campbell was asked "How would you advise somebody to tap into joy?"
In response, he gave the most mystical, mind-blowing and beautiful answer I could have ever imagined: https://t.co/pmJk3qzmVu
Ashwin Sharmax.comObserving your daily experience helps you discover true happiness
Through daily reflection on her experiences, Milner discovered that true happiness often came from unexpected moments of "wide focus" awareness, rather than conventional ideas of enjoyment, leading her to uncover deeper, more authentic desires.
Through daily reflection on her experiences, Milner discovered that true happiness often came from unexpected moments of "wide focus" awareness, rather than conventional ideas of enjoyment, leading her to uncover deeper, more authentic desires.
Mark Frauenfelder • Book Freak 164: A Life of One's Own
Most people don’t grow up. It’s too damn difficult. What happens is most people get older. That’s the truth of it. They honor their credit cards, they find parking spaces, they marry, they have the nerve to have children, but they don’t grow up. Not really. They get older. But to grow up costs the earth, the earth. It means you take responsibility... See more
Maya Angelou: "Most people don't grow up" • Liberal Arts
Relief comes from asking "What are the facts?" instead of "What shall I do?"
By observing her own anger and impulses to control others, Milner discovered the power of detachment and shifting focus from "How can I make them do what I want?" to "Why are they behaving this way?" leading to a sense of relief and freedom.
By observing her own anger and impulses to control others, Milner discovered the power of detachment and shifting focus from "How can I make them do what I want?" to "Why are they behaving this way?" leading to a sense of relief and freedom.
Mark Frauenfelder • Book Freak 164: A Life of One's Own
‘I want to open a window in their souls’: Haruki Murakami on the power of writing simply
https://theguardian.com/books/2022/nov/05/i-want-to-open-a-window-in-their-souls-haruki-murakami-on-the-power-of-writing-simply