Adam Callahan

Well one thing you can ask yourself is whether you actually WANT and NEED people's approval and recognition/noticing. What do they have that you don't that makes their attention and approval worth something?

You're gonna say "I don't know I just yearn for it automatically" I bet. But don't let yourself off so easily. Really think about it. Do people... See more

Instead, couples may find it more productive to focus on the future. In situations where relationships are the priority, research shows that constructive co-reflection—working toward a shared understanding and meaning—is more effective than brooding over one’s own perspective (Wenzel et al., 2023). Couples are also more likely to reach forgiveness... See more

get back on the journey and out of the circle

In our everyday 3D lives, we apply force to matter and get predictable results. We unpack groceries, chop garlic, and switch on a stovetop to boil water for spaghetti. These familiar objects appear to be inert. They do what you make them do. But this model doesn’t port to inner moves. In the subtle realms of mind and emotion, applying force creates... See more

"Time is short, my strength is limited, the office is a horror, the apartment is noisy, and if a pleasant, straightforward life is not possible then one must try to wriggle thr

Don't try to work in a distinctive style. Just try to do the best job you can; you won't be able to help doing it in a distinctive way.

Style is doing things in a distinctive way without trying to. Trying to is affectation.

Affectation is in effect to pretend that someone other than you is doing the work. You adopt an impressive but fake persona, and... See more

See both the dignity and absurdity in human nature

Trust the value of your personal experiences, even when others might trivialize them, recognizing that all human experiences contain both dignity and absurdity, and no single expression can fully capture their complexity.