Adam Callahan
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Adam Callahan
The Cult of Done Manifesto
- There are three states of being. Not knowing, action and completion.
- Accept that everything is a draft. It helps to get it done.
- There is no editing stage.
- Pretending you know what you’re doing is almost the same as knowing what you are doing, so just accept that you know what you’re doing even if you don’t and do it.
- Banish
medium.com • The Cult of Done Manifesto. The Cult of Done Manifesto Is a Special… | by Bre Pettis | Medium
Ostaseski summarized the insights he’s learned from the dying as “five invitations to be present.” 1) Don’t wait. 2) Welcome everything, push away nothing. 3) Bring your whole self to the experience. 4) Find a place of rest in the middle of things. 5) Cultivate don’t-know mind. For 2), Ostaseski quoted James Baldwin: “Not everything that can be... See more
longnow.org • What the Dying Teach the Living
If you don’t add any value to the world (via your contributions, your character, your attitude, etc.) and you are constantly leaching energy from those around you, eventually this strategy will make your world small, limited, and miserable.
Oleksandr Berdychevskyi • 11 Ways To Be A More Attractive Man
Observing your daily experience helps you discover true happiness
Through daily reflection on her experiences, Milner discovered that true happiness often came from unexpected moments of "wide focus" awareness, rather than conventional ideas of enjoyment, leading her to uncover deeper, more authentic desires.
Through daily reflection on her experiences, Milner discovered that true happiness often came from unexpected moments of "wide focus" awareness, rather than conventional ideas of enjoyment, leading her to uncover deeper, more authentic desires.
Mark Frauenfelder • Book Freak 164: A Life of One's Own
‘I want to open a window in their souls’: Haruki Murakami on the power of writing simply
https://theguardian.com/books/2022/nov/05/i-want-to-open-a-window-in-their-souls-haruki-murakami-on-the-power-of-writing-simply
The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.
Focus on the future to recover what was lost in the past
History can provide useful context; but using it to play the blame game can make things worse. The problem with evoking past (particularly irrelevant) offenses is that most couples will disagree on the “truth” of that history. How someone feels in a relationship is subjective, often biased in... See more
History can provide useful context; but using it to play the blame game can make things worse. The problem with evoking past (particularly irrelevant) offenses is that most couples will disagree on the “truth” of that history. How someone feels in a relationship is subjective, often biased in... See more
Is Your Partner Keeping Score in Your Relationship?
Relief comes from asking "What are the facts?" instead of "What shall I do?"
By observing her own anger and impulses to control others, Milner discovered the power of detachment and shifting focus from "How can I make them do what I want?" to "Why are they behaving this way?" leading to a sense of relief and freedom.
By observing her own anger and impulses to control others, Milner discovered the power of detachment and shifting focus from "How can I make them do what I want?" to "Why are they behaving this way?" leading to a sense of relief and freedom.
Mark Frauenfelder • Book Freak 164: A Life of One's Own
So it’s a good bet that when you step away from your devices, you’ll be spending more time, at least in the near term, with the emotions they were helping you avoid. Fortunately, in most cases, just knowing to expect this will enable you to resist the temptation to scurry back to the screens. (And incidentally, if you doubt that you use technology... See more