Adam Callahan

Well one thing you can ask yourself is whether you actually WANT and NEED people's approval and recognition/noticing. What do they have that you don't that makes their attention and approval worth something?

You're gonna say "I don't know I just yearn for it automatically" I bet. But don't let yourself off so easily. Really think about it. Do people... See more

How difficult it is to do as one ought every day without a single interruption. How difficult it is, not to dream up a book, but to write it without lassitude—in a word to be in good heart day after day.

"Time is short, my strength is limited, the office is a horror, the apartment is noisy, and if a pleasant, straightforward life is not possible then one must try to wriggle thr

The capacity to tolerate minor discomfort is a superpower . It’s shocking to realise how readily we set aside even our greatest ambitions in life, merely to avoid easily tolerable levels of unpleasantness. You already know it won’t kill you to endure the mild agitation of getting back to work on an important creative project; initiating a difficult... See more

Relief comes from asking "What are the facts?" instead of "What shall I do?"

By observing her own anger and impulses to control others, Milner discovered the power of detachment and shifting focus from "How can I make them do what I want?" to "Why are they behaving this way?" leading to a sense of relief and freedom.

get back on the journey and out of the circle

If you don’t add any value to the world (via your contributions, your character, your attitude, etc.) and you are constantly leaching energy from those around you, eventually this strategy will make your world small, limited, and miserable.