Wismie

Can society expect anything other than uncertainty when masculinity – one of the very essences of our existence – is almost always presented as toxic? When I was engrossed in the manosphere, this type of messaging would only have alienated me further from mainstream society, driving me closer to the influencers claiming that it was biased against... See more

The problem, as Musk sees it, is not that our civilisation will end imminently, but that society is being reshaped by who is and is not having children. Nor is the cause, as Johnson diagnosed it, merely a lack of sex – there are other factors at play.

Reframing “Too Late”

“Too late” is one of the most dangerous phrases we tell ourselves. It usually just means “not the way I once imagined it.” You might not do things like you would have then, but you can do them better now. You have more perspective, more patience, and less ego. Designing your life later isn’t about trying to catch up; it’s about... See more

Reimagining things Gently

If you think of your life like a house you’ve lived in for years, the building is fine, but maybe the layout isn’t working anymore. You don’t need to rebuild the house; you start by painting a wall, moving the furniture, or adding some colour. That’s what redesigning a life is all about: small, conscious changes that... See more

I can recall many PSHE sessions spent discussing female body image and objectification – rightfully so. But I struggle to say the same for male body image – the impossible standards set by the colossal lumps of muscle on our feeds, quite a few of which in fact are injecting themselves with steroids when the camera is packed away.

Our understanding of masculinity must also shift to make space for emotional connection between men. Vulnerability is often taught by women and associated with intimacy — leaving little room to express it in male friendships. But men need friendships grounded in trust, mutual honesty and shared vulnerability.

he main reason cited by the young adults surveyed by YouGov was cost. The idea that it is “too expensive” to have kids was the most commonly given reason for not wanting to have children, with 28 per cent of 18 to 40-year-olds who don’t want children.

A lot of men panic at the word matriarchy because they assume it means flipping the script.. that women would dominate, control,silence and diminish men the way patriarchy has done to women. And that fear is revealing. Because if someone immediately thinks, “If women were in charge,they would treat us the way we’ve treated them,” then somewhere

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If we want to interrupt this spiral, we must stop asking women to keep absorbing the damage. We need to offer boys a healthier model of masculinity that speaks to their needs — but doesn’t come at girls’ expense. That means listening to why women are pulling away and creating pathways for boys to grow without leaning on women.