“The whole self-esteem movement taught us erroneously that praising intelligence, talent, abilities would foster self-confidence, self-esteem, and everything great would follow. But we’ve found it backfires. People who are praised for talent now worry about doing the next thing, about taking on the hard task, and not looking talented, tarnishing... See more
The moment you stop trying to fix your partner is the moment your relationship actually starts working.
Here’s what actually shifts everything: learning to see your partner’s resistance as information, not defiance.
The couples who last aren’t the ones who never trigger each other. They’re... See more