Sharon Lee
@tlsharon
@tlsharon
Being wanted meant having to satisfy. At least, that was my view of it back then.
I felt a lot of internal pressure to figure it out, but all the thinking I did was really debilitating and unproductive. The one thing I have learned is that you can’t think your way through life. The only way to figure out what to do is to do—something.
You have to find a job that makes your heart feel big instead of one that makes it feel small.
But changing yourself means giving up on, denying, and never again showing the face of “yourself until now,” as if you were sending it to its grave, in effect.
Many twentysomethings assume life will come together quickly after thirty, and maybe it will. But it is still going to be a different life. We imagine that if nothing happens in our twenties then everything is still possible in our thirties. We think that by avoiding decisions now, we keep all of our options open for later. But not making choices i
... See moreTwentysomethings who take the time to explore and also have the nerve to make commitments along the way construct stronger identities.
Identity capital is our stock of personal assets. It is how we add value to who we are, and it is what we have to show for how we have spent our time. These are the investments we make in ourselves, or the things we do well enough or long enough that they become a part of who we are. Rather than coming from that “lightning bolt of intuition” Helen
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