Nikita

But this immersion in boredom is also a universal in the biographies of exceptional people.

The work of men is to lose the self, the work of women is to build the self precisely because we are conditioned to do the opposite. If marriage books recognized this pre-requisite work on the self, they would be WAY more effective in teaching us how to come together.

The more hard things you push yourself to do, the more competent you will see yourself to be

6. One of the clearest signs of intelligence is being able to hear an opinion you disagree with and not act emotionally

It feels amazing to do a hard thing and make it through. What’s worse is to have an easy life and feel nothing at all (the default)

But as I spent the holidays reflecting on this “Robin-to-your-Batman” mindset, I found myself facing a grimier, more menacing realization around why powering their agency has felt so much safer and easier than cultivating and motivating my own.

As I ate leftover Persian food on my mom’s antique couch in LA, listening to her 3 dogs shriek and bark in... See more

if you take [jelly fish] out of the water their entire form disappears, like when an unspeakable truth is lifted up out of the silence and expressed as lifeless gel, yes, they’re untranslatable, they must stay in their own element.

— Tomas Tranströmer, Baltics