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- Many of us have motivated our children with fear, guilt and shame. “I would’ve thought better of you,” or “if you want something to be scared of I’ll give you something to be scared of.” And you know, as a parent you pause and you say, does it work? Well yeah, sure, especially depending on your kids’ personality and temperament, it’s going to work ... See more
from Jim Dethmer: Leading Above the Line [The Knowledge Project Ep. #60] by Shane Parrish
- But because adults conceal their flaws, and at the same time insist on high standards of behavior for kids, a lot of kids grow up feeling they fall hopelessly short. They walk around feeling horribly evil for having used a swearword, while in fact most of the adults around them are doing much worse things.
from Lies We Tell Kids
In only three generations, children in the British Isles as well as the United States have lost their freedom to roam, their independently explorable territories shrinking from hundreds of acres to the dimensions of each child’s own back yard. This is not an accusation toward parents; their decisions reflect their judgments about their children’s s
... See morefrom The Last of the Monsters with Iron Teeth by Simplicio
Let me be clear: there is no way to make social media safe for children by just making the content less toxic. It’s the phone-based childhood that is harming them, regardless of what they watch . Kids need to be freed from the grip of smartphones and social media, especially through early puberty. This is why two of the four norms I propose for sol
... See morefrom Marshall McLuhan on Why Content Moderation Is a Red Herring by Jon Haidt
Injury prevention plays a key role in keeping children safe, but emerging research suggests that imposing too many restrictions on children’s outdoor risky play hinders their development.
from Risky Play and Children’s Safety: Balancing Priorities for Optimal Child Development by Brussoni, Mariana
We’re decades deep into the helicopter parenting era. Children have never been healthier or safer, but then, American children have been remarkably healthy and safe for decades longer, there was never any real “stranger danger,” and improvements to child health are the product of improving medical technology, not ever-more-anxious parents.
from You Are You. We Live Here. This is Now. by Freddie deBoer
- “What matters most in how kids turn out is who we are as parents”
from Dr. Laura Markham: Peaceful Parenting [The Knowledge Project Ep. #52] by Farnam Street
(One of my favorite pieces of parenting advice: You have to give yourself what you needed when you were a kid, and give your kids what they need now.)
from The Way You Wanted to Feel by Austin Kleon
- Whenever we lie to kids to protect them, we're usually also lying to keep the peace.
One consequence of this sort of calming lie is that we grow up thinking horrible things are normal. It's hard for us to feel a sense of urgency as adults over something we've literally been trained not to worry about. When I was about 10 I saw a documentary on pollu... See morefrom Lies We Tell Kids