Miranda Ruth Waterton

Grief and Joy Combo Platter

Late identification is often described as a relief—but the truth is more complicated. It brings grief: for the years you spent masked, for the misunderstandings you endured, for the versions of yourself that never got to be fully alive. It also brings joy: the recognition that you were never broken, only misnamed; the... See more

Clinical studies of such children reveal that a preponderance of them have parents who have related to them in either a helpless and fearful way or a hostile and self-referential one. The children of helpless and fearful parents, in particular, have a very difficult time later in life. Their parents tend to be sweet and fragile, not hostile or

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