Sublime

As is so often the case, when one parent struggles the other steps forward, parenting being a team sport played by individuals.

The particulars of the events that shaped their lives may be obscured from our vision, but nevertheless, the impact of those particulars can be deeply felt. It’s not only what we inherit from our parents but also how they were parented that influences how we relate to a partner, how we relate to ourselves, and how we nurture our children. For

So, the parent must step out of time and place and become the parent this child needs, not the parent that society (and the parent’s ego) dictates. It requires an almost superhuman love, where the parent’s expectations are set aside and the needs of the child are met first. A father wouldn’t insist that a blind child play basketball because all the

“You can keep learning to live with the fact that family will never envelop you. Maybe creating that for your own children will be enough. But it is hard work, spending a lifetime giving something you never get. When you partner with someone, you have a second chance at family.”