Sublime

But most of the time the attention that my “prettiness” garnered meant that men viewed me as an object, and men don’t respect objects. After all, objects are something we use without reciprocity; it’s a one-sided relationship.

Most Nice Guys believe that by repressing the darker side of their masculine energy they will win the approval of women. This seems logical considering the anti-male climate that has permeated our culture since the 1960s. Ironically, these same men frequently complain that women seemed to be attracted to “jerks” rather than Nice Guys like them.

women internalize the gaze and learn to feel satisfied not only by others objectifying them in real life, but even by fantasizing about objectification.

The cumulative effect of this experience often leads a woman to hide a large chunk of herself from other people in order to protect herself. This keeps her locked tight inside that closet for fear she will be scrutinized, found out, publicly exposed and humiliated. She then becomes trapped on a continuous treadmill, unable to get the help she needs

Tellingly, many of the adverse effects of social media use appear to be inherently gendered. Women make up the majority of audiences across all the visual platforms, notably Instagram and Pinterest,