Sublime

And, it’s particularly difficult because narcissists work hard to build up a feeling of obligation, hoping it will keep us locked in despite the way they mistreat us.

It is no longer Camelot. It is no longer even person-to-person. The distortion is bizarre. I will stay because “He doesn’t beat me.” “She doesn’t run around.” “He hasn’t lost his job.” Imagine getting credit for the behaviors we ordinary mortals do as a matter of course. Even if the worst is true—even if he does beat you; even if she does run aroun

To her colleagues she seemed bad tempered, aggressive and impulsive. To cap it all, she was becoming inefficient, forgetful and devoid of creativity. Her private life – such as it was – was equally chaotic. Her second husband had recently left her, and her seventeen-year-old daughter was a ‘disappointment’ because of her devotion

He reported that she was always involved with the kids. With no friends of her own, she turned to her children for companionship and affirmation of her worth.