Sublime

Rather, you’re committing to change because doing so is helping you connect with your deepest values from your most authentic sense of self.

but a major transition is under way in which many CBT researchers are moving CBT itself broadly in an ACT direction,14 a transition that has begun in recent years to move at light speed.

1. Say “Yes”

The punch line is that if the purpose of any coping strategy is to avoid feeling a challenging emotion or thinking an upsetting thought, to wipe out a painful memory or look away from a difficult sensation, the long-term outcome will almost always be poor.

Which storyline will lead you forward to where you want to go? Which storyline seems most useful to you and under which circumstances? Who would you rather determines which storyline gets your attention? The Dictator Within, or your transcendent self?

The mind is using language to understand increasingly complex features of the world and how it works.

Language was not learning to associate, it was learning to relate.

Feeling like a cog in a machine suggests a lack of freedom to create your own areas of competence.

We can use this insight to deliberately try new approaches in life. Rigidity is the enemy to change.