Sublime

We can use this insight to deliberately try new approaches in life. Rigidity is the enemy to change.

If we are going to increase acceptance, we will need to do so in an accepting, nonjudgmental, and values-based way. There is a formula for ensuring that we’re doing so: Instigate, Model, and Reinforce it, From, Toward and With It!

One of the benefits of understanding RFT is that it helps us be compassionate with ourselves as we embark on the journey of making the pivots.

Avoidance is provoked when our emotions move beyond that comfort zone.

It focuses on how people experience the world, how we conceptualize ourselves and relate to others, and how we create a life of meaning. The central issues attended to are important: empathy, authenticity, and a sense of self.

The mind is using language to understand increasingly complex features of the world and how it works.

The Hand Exercise Imagine writing down your thought on the palm of your hand

CBT exposure methods have moved strongly in an ACT direction by including acceptance, mindful noticing, and new learning,

A more pernicious reason why accepting the need for acceptance can be hard is that our fight-or-flight instincts are so strong.