Sublime

This state unambiguously conveys to others that it is not safe to be in close proximity to this person.

The Polyvagal Theory also reframes trauma as a product of a nervous system that feels chronically unsafe, and posits that treatments will be most effective when they are designed with a sense of “safety” in mind—or administered in environments that make people feel safe.

In the absence of social interaction that feels safe (that part is crucial, as unsafe interactions are very different), nobody can be expected to be healthy, happy, or able to think right.

the social engagement system is not accessible in environments in which people are poking things at you.

When we feel unsafe, our bodies shut down our ability to critically think or learn in favor of a need for immediate survival.

specific behaviors and psychological feelings will occur.

some changes occur within our resting heart rate without the addition of any stressors.

ramp up

Their nervous system is detecting risk when there is no real risk, and their narrative provides their justification for not being loving, trusting, and spontaneously engaging.