Sublime

University of Chicago psychologist Nicholas Epley points out that in day-to-day life we have access to the many thoughts that run through our own minds. But we don’t have access to all the thoughts that are running through other people’s minds. We just have access to the tiny portion they speak out loud. This leads to the perception that I am much

Roy Baumeister, has established the following important (and at the time, unexpected) truth about willpower: You have a finite amount of willpower that becomes depleted as you use it.

This Trapped Self is the part of you that doesn’t feel like it’s showing up in life like you want, avoiding certain things or feeling pressured to act in a certain way. Conversely, there’s another experience we have in life, where we feel like our Heroic Self. It’s that part of you that feels like you’re doing what you want, doing it for your own r

Of the many emerging descriptions of our social brain, for me the simplest and most elegant is the highly regarded Social Baseline Theory of Lane Beckes and James A. Coan, two researchers at the University of Virginia.

Self-control and deliberate thought apparently draw on the same limited budget of effort.

Our brains are built to act in our self-interest while at the same time trying hard not to appear selfish in front of other people.

men tend to resort to physical forms of punishment, whereas women tend to rely more on psychological punishment – a strategy deployed to particular heights by adolescent girls.

You know, we never outgrow our sensitivity to these messages.

Jeffrey Hall,