Sublime

Defusion helps us distance from this negative self-talk, “opening the drain.” Self skills remind us that we are not the roles we play, or the perceptions others have of us; we are the “I” deep within.

In your pain you find your values, and in your avoidance, you find your values disconnection. Without emotional flexibility and openness, it’s impossible to live according to chosen values.

And I quoted from Nietzsche: “Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker.” (That which does not kill me, makes me stronger.)

Use perspective-taking to build a healthy sense of belonging and interconnection with others in consciousness, in effect expanding the individual transcendent sense of self, me, into an interconnected sense of we.