Sublime

One of my great mentors, Pia Mellody, spoke of the Adaptive Child as a “kid in grown-up’s clothing.” The Adaptive Child is a child’s version of an adult,

To the detached persons reading this book: Recognize that you have been the terrible friend. Through your fear and obsessive love you have robbed your loved ones of the ability to feel trusted, to feel confident,

Andrew Taggart, who writes about our modern relationship to work, describes as “a first-person work‑centric story of progress about an individual’s life course.”⁠

Once we incorporate the perspective of the excluded—in this case, Brit—priorities reorder.

By the time Chris reached dating age he was starving for affection and latched onto the most damaged girl at his school who verbally and psychologically abused him. When she cheated on him, Chris rationalized her behavior as his own fault and worked harder to earn her approval.

offending from the victim position. When we offend from the victim position, we feel like a victim while acting like an offender.