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Would you mind sharing why you’re angry?” I want to say, How do you know I’m angry? Because I’m not smiling? Craig’s not smiling, either. Why does a woman’s neutral face mean anger, while a man’s neutral face means neutral?

As part of your practice, try to observe yourself as well. Notice how often and when you tend to put on a fake smile, or how your body registers nervousness—in your voice, the drumming of your fingers, the twiddling with your hair, the quivering of your lips, and so on. Becoming acutely aware of your own nonverbal behavior will make you more sensit

One tendency of detached individuals is to assume they know another person’s thoughts, feelings, or intentions without asking.

As a clinical psychologist, when you look at clients’ faces and listen to their voices, you are inferring information about their physiological state because the face and heart are wired together in the brainstem.

observe how you interact with other people, you may detect subtle changes in your speech, attitude, and behavior depending on the person you are interacting with.

The most important of these skills, and power’s crucial foundation, is the ability to master your emotions. An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings. Emotions cloud reason, and if you cannot see the

Because your mind and body are so tightly connected, one of the most effective ways to understand your emotions as they are happening is to learn how to spot the physical changes that accompany your emotions.

People who adopted the aggressive pattern use their street smarts to rapidly size up others and figure out who has power and who doesn’t — who is strong, who is smart, who has influence. They collect this information by (consciously or unconsciously) testing those around them for strength and truthfulness. The test is a pulse of energy that they se