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How to meet anyone you want

Be proactive: Is no one saying hello? Then say hello.

Gorick Ng • The Unspoken Rules: Secrets to Starting Your Career Off Right

I’m increasingly convinced it’s much easier (and happier) to assume strangers are friends you haven’t met yet, than to assume strangers will remain strangers.

Amanda Natividad • Tweet

My contribution to the advice canon for making friends follows a similar vein: Think of friendship as a tapestry. It starts with its first seams—a meeting at a party, an introduction, a spark at a concert. Sometimes you’re knitting it together, sometimes one person is working overtime, and sometimes you stop and look at what you’ve made and know th

Aaron Edwards • I Followed Common Advice for Making Friends. Then I Learned What It Really Takes.

The sociopaths quickly become best friends with selected creators. They dress just like the creators—only better. They talk just like the creators—only smoother. They may even do some creating—competently, if not creatively. Geeks may not be completely fooled, but they also are clueless about what the sociopaths are up to.

meaningness.com • Geeks, MOPs, and Sociopaths in Subculture Evolution

as it was becoming increasingly clear that a lot of people also used dating sites just to make new friends, which was a much larger opportunity.

Cliff Lerner • Explosive Growth: A Few Things I Learned While Growing My Startup To 100 Million Users & Losing $78 Million

Having friends in close proximity transforms a generic neighborhood into an extended home.

Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships

And compared to people who know us, strangers present three new problems. 1) First, you don't have a way to contact them. Duh. 2) Second, even if you can contact them, they ignore you. 3) Third, even if they give you their attention, they’re not interested.

Alex Hormozi • $100M Leads: How to Get Strangers To Want To Buy Your Stuff (Acquisition.com $100M Series Book 2)

None of these people needed another friend. They did need, however, access to my platform, and so that gave me the ability to get my foot in the door, build friendships, and start partnerships. This is the key to working your way in.