Sublime

The impact on a marriage is also devastating, but only the trained eye can spot the damage. On the surface, the adaptive individual looks normal, and everything is always fine. If the surface is scratched, however, it’s a whole different story. It is hard to trust this partner. You never know what is real about her. You don’t know if she is doing w

I feel like that I start asking my husband “which” he wants to do. As in “do you want to give the kid a bath in 10 minutes or unload and re-load the dishwasher now?” I let him choose but hold him responsible for whichever. It feels so silly sometimes, but I have found that’s the only way I get the help I need.

For their part, the husbands are usually just as tired of the fighting but still optimistic that the marriage can be fixed. They’re constantly in fix-it mode, scanning for ways to manage the mounting damage or figure out the one secret trick to unlock their wife’s heart.