Sublime

Dr. Carol Dweck, professor at Stanford University, we have a mind-set problem. Dweck has done an enormous amount of research to understand what makes someone give up in the face of adversity versus strive to overcome it.

A better psychology for her and children everywhere will view positive motivations—loving kindness, competence, choice, and respect for life—as being just as authentic as the darker motives. It will inquire about such positive feelings as satisfaction, happiness, and hope. It will ask how children can acquire the strengths and virtues whose exercis

Are you motivated by your potential for growth, rather than a need to repair your deficiencies? (Chapter I)

They had learned helplessness.

first psychotherapist I’d met whose focus was on the solution, not the problem. He was absolutely confident that human beings possessed untapped forces that allowed them to solve their own problems.

A secure attachment combined with the cultivation of competency builds an internal locus of control, the key factor in healthy coping throughout life.

The emphasis in our culture is upon doing and achieving. The modern individual is committed to being successful, not to being a person.

Knowing about the attachment styles empowers people to harness their biology to work for them rather than against them.