Sublime

It takes work to communicate accurately and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs.

Relationship management is your ability to use your awareness of your own emotions and those of others to manage interactions successfully.

Well-timed, skilful articulation of observations is the hallmark of the highly accomplished coach. Clumsy, ill-timed interventions can risk the safety, trust and confidence that are so vital to the working alliance.

concern, or shifts in moods in group settings, the more skilled you will be in maneuvering through the social wilds of your life.

social emotional learning (SEL), which applies Daniel Goleman’s work

This work is deeply personal, and it invites you to do your own transformative work, because who you are is more important than what you teach.

The first step toward change is awareness.

the conversation has required Barbara to self-observe (her enthusiasm when she interrupted) and to reorganize (in order to be enthusiastic and connected at the same time). It is easy to see, based on even these few minutes of conversation, how we could construct an experiment or a rich practice that Barbara could do as fieldwork.

Any changes a person makes in coaching are more likely to have a lasting and meaningful impact when their broader patterns, identity strategies, and socially constructed narratives are addressed (Mattingly, 1998). Ultimately, it is about asking this marvelous question from Lisa Marshall: “What story is worth your life?”