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But because girls have stronger communion motives, the way to really hurt another girl is to hit her in her relationships. You spread gossip, turn her friends against her, and lower her value as a friend to other girls. Researchers have found that when you look at “indirect aggression” (which includes damaging other people’s relationships or

problems are likely to increase when your daughter is new to a school, when her grade is receiving a large number of new students, or when she’s in the youngest grade of a school, because the social hierarchy is challenged and people want to know how any changes to that hierarchy will shake out.

When you wring your hands in worry over your daughter’s first day at school or when you pace back and forth before her first piano recital, her mirror neurons jump into gear. They not only fire as if they were performing those actions, but they also take on the stress that your brain and your level of worry are giving off.

the average person has dozens, maybe even hundreds, of what we call intrusive thoughts per day.

Another way we know that children learn these messages is that we can see how they pass them on. Even young children are ready to pass on the wisdom they’ve learned.

No, but they have to care about every single student.

We teach brilliance bias to children from an early age. A recent US study found that when girls start primary school at the age of five, they are as likely as five-year-old boys to think women could be ‘really really smart’.43 But by the time they turn six, something changes. They start doubting their gender. So much so, in fact, that they start

when those with low self-esteem were told it is OK to experience negative thoughts, their mood improved.