Sublime

“Everybody counts or nobody counts.”

Social

we each have identities we claim. We look to others to grant those identities. When we don’t get that affirmation, we feel threatened, which is stressful, and we do things we would not normally do. Under self-threat, we become less of the good people we mean to be.

marché, ou la concentration à l’école. Approfondissons cette idée du compromis : les extravertis ont plus de partenaires sexuels que les introvertis, ce qui est bienvenu pour une espèce qui a besoin de se reproduire, mais ils sont plus enclins à l’adultère et divorcent plus fréquemment, ce qui est dommageable pour les enfants. Les extravertis sont

We reasoned that switching starts as a deliberate decision but [57]becomes automatized in response to cultural cues—what I now call “tribal triggers.”

what has been demonstrated through a host of celebrated laboratory and field studies is that manipulations of the immediate social situation can overwhelm in importance the type of individual differences in personal traits or dispositions that people normally think of as being determinative of social behavior.

The more we value the group, the more likely we are to be influenced by it, even if other members don’t share the same demographic makeup.

Therefore, others will assess you to ascertain how seriously to take you, whether to defer to you and perhaps ally with you. As the late social psychologist Nalini Ambady noted, “The ability to form impressions of others is a critical human skill.”

DR. JEKYLL AND MR. HOSTILE