Sublime

Unmet Needs

Teaching is about giving, while control is about getting. Earlier methods of discipline suffered from a lack of emphasis upon teaching. By learning the methods of loving guidance, you will discover how both you and your child can get your needs met in a socially acceptable fashion.

Don’t feel threatened, breathe, project confidence, let it rollll off our back Prevent it whenever possible (by giving children safe “yes” places to explore; for example, rather than free access to markers and white sofas) Set limits calmly, clearly, early Acknowledge all desires and feelings and encourage children to express them (“You feel like t

The aim of this meditative pedagogy is to systematically strengthen one’s attention by applying it to four discrete domains of experience in order to refine the mind’s natural capacities for insight (wisdom) and behavior change (ethics).

Composure: Living the values you want your child to develop. This teaches integrity. Encouragement: Honoring children so they will honor you. This teaches interdependence. Assertiveness: Saying no and being heard. This teaches respect. Choices: Building self-esteem and willpower. This teaches commitment. Positive Intent: Turning resistance into coo

The tendency to create certain designated places where “emotional” people can go and get “fixed” sometimes undermines our own capacity to witness each other’s healing within classroom communities.

Anchors. We help our child and then allow for emotional explosions in response, because children need help with those, too. The assistance they need is an anchor — our patient presence and empathy while they safely ride this wave out. When the wave passes, they need us to acknowledge their feelings, forgive, understand, and let go so they can, too.

And after that, when the emotion is about to come up, the child will know what to do. She will see that she can easily survive her emotions.

Kids in search of a secure base may appear to push the teacher away through defiance or refusal to complete tasks. They may battle for control. They are, in fact, not pushing away, but pulling toward.