Sublime

The goals of self-esteem and self-compassion are polar opposites. One is about getting it right, the other is about opening our hearts. The second option allows us to be fully human.

when those with low self-esteem were told it is OK to experience negative thoughts, their mood improved.

Self-compassion is different from self-esteem. Self-esteem is about assessing yourself in a positive way—often in comparison to others, which can lead to narcissism (feeling special or better than others). Self-compassion, on the other hand, is a gentle way we relate to ourselves when we’re struggling—with kindness, caring, empathy, and understandi

This project found a large effect size between self-compassion and depression, anxiety, and stress. This negative relationship indicates that when self-compassion goes up, depression, anxiety, and perceived stress go down.

Acceptance is especially helpful in dealing with stress because so much stress is caused by factors in our lives we can’t change.

In the fixed mindset, however, the loss of one’s self to failure can be a permanent, haunting trauma.

herself, or to interpret someone else’s actions as a deliberate rejection, she would repeat, “I love and accept myself exactly as I am.” Eventually, deep wells of grief arose as she let herself experience the full extent of the pain caused by her mother’s rejection and disapproval. But as long as she repeated her phrase, she found she could feel he

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