Sublime

John Bowlby, an anthropologist and psychoanalyst, studied patterns of attachment between mothers and children and came up with four basic schemas: free/autonomous, dismissing, enmeshed-ambivalent, and disorganized.

When a core belief is questioned, though, we tend to shut down rather than open up. It’s as if there’s a miniature dictator living inside our heads,8 controlling the flow of facts to our minds, much like Kim Jong-un controls the press in North Korea. The technical term for this in psychology is the totalitarian ego, and its job is to keep out

the role of the parent is to teach and help the child to cope with unpredictable circumstances and events.”

Robbie had serious cognitive delays and most of his service providers were sure that a behavioral system with simple, concrete rewards and punishments was the only way to help such a child get himself under control.

les écrits de Herbert Spencer, l’homme qui a marqué de l’empreinte de son génie tout le champ de la recherche scientifique et de la pensée modernes, le père de la psychologie, l’homme qui a révolutionné la pédagogie, au point que le fils du paysan français apprend à lire, à écrire et à compter selon les principes qu’il a énoncés.

The essence of psychotherapy lies in a willingness to get systematically interested in why we constantly respond in the bizarre and uncalled-for ways we exhibit. It asks by what sequence of formative experiences an otherwise perfectly decent and intelligent person could be led to sob on the floor or threaten to jump out of the window after an